This is something to think about........ In the novel "Paradise Lost".... Milton wrote that the greatest burden that God imposed on man (ie. Adam and Eve), was the burden of choice, and the greatest curse that man brought onto himself, was the curse of knowledge. Knowing and having to choose.... These two, conspire together to make life miserable for man. Eg. The knowledge that things are not as best as can be, or that others are doing better.... having to choose a course of action and knowing later that that course chosen, may not have been the best one..... Is this not the source of want, dispare, dissatisfaction, envy, jealousy... subsequently leading to resentment, anger, hate, revenge, etc ? A rabbit kept in a cage is not unhappy. You feed it and it will be as happy as any other rabbit. That's because it knows nothing, and does not have to choose. It does not even know it has no choice. Sometimes, it makes me wonder..... maybe we should know less,..... and have fewer choices....... There is some truth in the phrases "The forbidden fruit of knowledge", and "The unbearable burden of choice"My take on this is: 1) This has nothing to do with religion whatsoever. I do know of many philosophers who have debated on this topic for centuries and they were hardly religious. The ones who were came up with very interesting answers. 2) While knowledge has made us the superior species on the planet, it has in many ways lead us to our own downfall and slow destruction. Einstein was even once quote saying that if he knew that his famous discovery (E=mc2) was to be used in nuclear weaponary, he would have settled for becoming a watchmaker. In a way, the author of the post is right by saying that sometimes knowledge isn't all that we make it out to be. That sometimes knowing too much isn't all that great. Think about it for a second. There are some of us out there - and perhaps ALL of us in one point in time - regretted for a split second ever knowing things that we wished we hadn't known. The husband/boyfriend who cheated on you behind your back, the real reason behind how you got that job, etc. THAT is what I mean by "forbidden fruit of knowledge" - sometimes awareness itself can be too much for some to handle. Hence incidents of suicide and even madness... It can even be said that all forms of awareness are knowledge - being aware of new things - like how Einstein became aware of his wrong choice... 3) While choice is the fundamental characteristic of human life, some choices are not really choices at all. The word choice itself is based on options available, thus limiting the real meaning of 'choice' - for some, these options may be unnecessary and thus, 'optional'. But for others, all the choices available on their plate affects them in a big manner one way or the other - no matter how they choose. Thus is to say, choice becomes unbearable. Yes, men can be strong but we cannot deny who we are inherently in our path to becoming more than what we are. I never implied or suggested that we humans should shy from choosing itself. I merely highlighted what the truth is in "unbearable burden of choice". Do not forget that part of who you are comes from your heritage, your past, your awareness of the history and background of yourself as an individual and part of a society. It is sad but the real truth is such. 4) Thus, awareness comes in. If one is not aware of such weaknesses, one cannot move on. When one becomes aware of it, one decides - gladly if not painfully. Then such choice will indefinitely bring about new opportunities leading to more awareness. It is a constant cycle. Humans have one edge over animals and that is our awareness. It is what makes us human. With that knowledge, comes the choice. They run hand in hand. Now having said that, humanity is made up of pros and cons. It is the negative that often brings about the positive in life - as how Aquinas related good to evil, light to dark. 5) It is impossible for mankind to be just ONE and not both. Man will always be weak AND strong when it comes to living and deciding. Those who choose to be strong are aware of themselves and their choices. Those who choose to remain as they are lack such awareness and thus are ignorant of themselves. If we are merely strong, how will we know what is weak? Aren't we then ignorant and lack knowledge itself? I'll see if it's possible for me to update this as the thread on the other side develops further - no doubt, I might be looking to getting misunderstood and shelled for my opinions, but it's okay. We're all learning. ^_~|W|P|110856660760356044|W|P|Forbidden fruit of knowledge and unbearable burden of choice...|W|Pemail@example.com
I am going to turn twenty-six this year. Another year looming ahead...and the strangest thing is this: I am very very truly satisfied with my life. I don't know if it's just me - I don't think it is though - to be at this age and utterly content with what I have, who I have become and of the things that I have obtained in this life. I look at other people around me, some struggling, some still wishing, others still busy trying to reach where I am...and I wonder to myself. Am I normal? Lets examine the evidence... I am in good health - even though I'm prone to a mild form of annoying migraines and the ocassional period cramps. I have been so since my corrective heart surgery and the last time I came down with anything other than a migraine like a flu was nearly two years ago. I have wonderful friends and family - who are constantly supportive and behind me all the way. My friends are busy but it's nice to know that whenever the phone rings and it's them, it just feels like yesterday...when our days were less filled with worries or cares of the working world...when we had each other, sipping coffee and sharing talks of studies, and ourselves. I have a good job, which I'm totally in love with. While it keeps me busy and fed (even though it isn't as well as we all hoped it would be - still life isn't perfect), it is what I have been born to do. I once thought that the perfect job would be one that you would love to do...but after working as a lecturer for nearly 1.5 years now, I realized that it is a job that one is born into - a job that requires the right attitude, skill and character. Not many people understand it as such... And with the promotion now, I find that my career is slowly stabilizing itself. I'm climbing up the ladder and confidently such as well. Was told recently that Murdoch University recognizes me as an excellant partner and even made great recommendations for me to teach...how can my job not be great? And even after the job opportunity I undertook in Singapore...My partner is a great man with a good and gentle soul. He makes me laugh...he makes me happy...and he loves me. It is sometimes hard to believe that after years of being in terrible relationships, it took a less than eager me to find a good man. The thought of it makes me cry sometimes - cry with fear of the knowledge that all could be like it was before - dark, painful and cold - yet when I'm his arms, it feels as if nothing can hurt me ever again...and even if it did, there was a silver lining to it. Yes, through him, I learnt to hope again. So what is there left for someone like myself?
Cheri... Do you know that I miss you? It has not even been a full day since the minute we parted at the bus station...as I watched your blue-covered form smiling back at me, waving, and then walking away...it seemed like forever in those few minutes... Suddenly being away from you suddenly heightens all my senses...or at least three of them. My sense of touch...while folding your clothes, as I run my fingers over your boxers, your shirts, I remember how they felt rubbing against my skin, the warmth beneath them, the feel of you, the knowledge that my man feels comfortable wearing the things he like... My sense of sight...seeing the bright patterns and colours brings gentle memories of you just being in them. Your soft smile, the glow on your face and the sparkle in your eyes. Suddenly it is as if you are before me again, holding my hand, caressing me with your gaze... My sense of smell...just of you...the smell of you filling my nostrils as I keep your clothes away in that little box. The pillows that bear your scent, the sheets...they all beckon and make me just want to wrap all of myself in them, just as how I remember you wrapping your arms around me a few mornings ago. I love the way you wrap your arms around me, the way you smell every morning - a little hint of soap and just you...all of you... I know I'm not suppose to cry...but honestly, I can't really help myself. I worry for you yet I want you to enjoy yourself. I know the future is unpredictable yet I wish for your safe return into my arms. You know something? I nearly went frantic when I couldn't find the French for Dummies book you gave me when we first met. And when I found it, I remember clutching it close to me and sighing with relief. I started tearing as I wrote this...I remember hoping and wishing for your phone call only to be reminded that you lost your phone. No matter, I tell myself, I'll get you a nifty one and make sure you don't lose it again in my own little way. And then I wonder...just to distract myself from the pangs of missing you... Valentine's is coming up soon and frankly, while every day should be a Valentine's Day...I still want to give you something special. So, what should I get you for Valentine's Day? Should I give the phone to you as a gift? Or should I disregard that because I already passed you your gift - a beaded bracelet to make up for the ever-loose one that I gave you in the beginning of our relationship? Or should I get you one of those cards? Then I remember... I'll probably settle for the best hug, best kiss, best cuddle, best petit dejeuner (sp?), best date, best dinner...whichever were to come first. There is more, though. Your gift - this Valentine's Day, cheri - is more than all those things...is perhaps the best I could ever come up with that money can never ever buy. This Valentine's Day, I give you my heart...my love...all of me. Je t'aime, cheri. ps: Please come home soon...I think I've said enough for tonight...|W|P|110761224457569616|W|P|Do you know...|W|Pfirstname.lastname@example.org
CARRIE We've always had this "thing" together. And when that thing shows up it's -- everything else goes out the window. You know? CHARLOTTE No, I don't know. He's married. That makes you the "other woman." Carrie, you're the other woman. CARRIE Charlotte, come on, I feel bad enough. CHARLOTTE Good. you should feel bad. Do you ever think about how she'd feel if she found out? CARRIE I think about it all the time. CHARLOTTE No, you don't. You think about what would happen to you if she found out. You don't think about her. She's just a joke to you... "The idiot wife." You don't know anything about her. She's a real person with real feelings. CARRIE Okay, in a minute, I'm going to suffocate myself in this bubble wrap. CHARLOTTE This isn't a joke, Carrie. They made vows. Vows he broke. I'm getting married in three weeks... How would you feel if someone did this to me? CARRIE I would kill them. CHARLOTTE How could you do this? I mean, you're my Maid of Honor. CARRIE I'm getting out of it. I am.(beat)Can I please help you pack?On another side of the Internet universe (geez, I'm beginning to sound like Carrie as she ruminates on her column), I have been busy in a heated discussion about affairs with a good amount of anti-affair and pro-affair proponents. Incidently, my ex and his girl best friend (yes, that one - lets call her 'J' for future purposes in this blog...for a brief history on J...well...maybe I'll write about that another day) are bordering to the pro-affair proponents with the excuse that "love is all that matters in a relationship" and "if two people are happy, who is to say it is wrong?". "If two people are happy, who is to say it is wrong?" But an affair is never about two people ALONE unlike a monogamous relationship. An affair involves three people, sometimes even more - when the couple involved has children. For us to think that an affair is about two people alone is so wrong...so very wrong. Or is it simply okay? Why do women have affairs? Why do they seek happiness with married men? Men who took vows to be with another woman - their wives - for the rest of their lives. If the same were to happen to our brothers, sisters, best friends, daughters...would our 'okays' with regards to affairs still be the same? People who are close to me would know this: I do not condone cheating. I abhor adultery and the very idea of going against the sanctity of marriage. Honour is an important thing to me and honour includes how I undertake promises and vows. I take them very seriously...especially with regards to marriage because like it or not, marriage is about the union of two people (not just me) and ultimately, two families. The very idea of breaking them just means dishonour to me. It is also because I have seen enough in my family, in my life to ever say that it is okay if the cheater and the third party are happy, that it's okay to break marriage vows... It is more than just that. I watched how an affair torn my uncle's family apart, how his little children suffer and grew to hate him and bear bitterness towards their own father. I saw how an affair turned a respectable man into one who in death still had to witness the possibility of a feud between his wife and mistress at his funeral, how my cousins - after twenty odd years - still displayed hatred towards his mistress... "Love is all that matters in a relationship..." Well, if we truly loved that person, why and how could we care to submit them to such things? I wonder how could my dead uncle - assuming that he loved her and cared for her - bear to see his own children have nothing but contempt for his mistress? Watch as the public scorned her for being the other woman...the marriage-breaker...the husband stealer. Is this what we want to give our loved ones? Happiness or no happiness, I just can't stand it. I have been on both sides of the coin - I have been the other women twice (once by choice and the other by accident - the reason behind me moving to a new blog, the non-existent wife found my old blog and destroyed it and gave me hell...I promised her as a sign of good faith never to contact her hubby again - to which we both agreed that the bastard lied to us - I still talk to her once in a blue moon) and in both, I got out as fast as I could; I laid the ultimatum to myself - honour or love. In the end, I chose to drop the relationship(s), simply because while I bored them some affection, it was not enough. It would never be enough. Love was not enough to sooth the guilt I bore to the other person in the picture, the one whom I never see - the wife or the girlfriend. Love was not enough to salvage dishonour on my part. Love was not enough to right broken promises. Love is simply never enough in a relationship, even though it is important and what we seek most of the time. I am a woman who in the near future would like to get married to a good man. I seek loyalty, faithfulness, devotion and affection from my future partner. Even though I am a Christian, I believe in the law of karma. What goes around comes around. I keep asking myself... What if it were to happen to me when I get married? What if I were to discover today that my father has been cheating on my mother all this while? What if it were to happen to my best friend? Having said that, my dislike for affairs doesn't mean other people out there have to think like me. Should my best friend one day decides to go out with a married man or a man in a serious permenant relationship (unlike her though), I'd still be supportive - after giving her a piece of my mind though...the way Charlotte did to Carrie. Her words still ring in my head... How would you feel if someone did this to me? |W|P|110739878995951125|W|P|Is it okay?|W|Pemail@example.com
Dear Mabel Teoh.. Greetings from AirAsia and we apologise for the delay in response.First and foremost, thank you very much Mabel, for taking the time to convey your feedback. We would like to take this oppurtunity to apologise for the unpleasant experiences you had with us for the 3 flights that you have higlighted in your mail with regards to the long delays encountered and the management of the such delays.. Just like to share the following with you.. Delays are sometimes inevitable as planes do get sick occasionally and whilst other airlines would most probably still proceed to fly with small defects we hold true to our high safety standard for the benefits of our guests. We will ground the plane and ensure that even the slightest defects are rectified before releasing the planes off the ground. The affected flight will be rescheduled taking into consideration the time needed for repair or a switch to the next available aircraft. As a relatively new start up which solely depends on our own resources, we do not have the luxury as yet as other low fare carriers of the benefit of spares aircraft lying on ground nor do we have the luxury of full financial backings from Governments or sister airlines with whom we could transfer passengers to eg. Nok Air-Thai Airways or Tiger Airways-SIA/Silk Air. However please rest assured that this is being addressed as we are anticipating delivery of another 6 aircraft in the next two months which will increase our capacity to meet such inevitable. The delivery of our newly acquired Airbus A320 will also help to provide the capacity to meet any eventuality. There have been many reports to discredit AirAsia but our main priority is to ensure that we take each criticism constructively and continue to work on improving our service and quality; maintain our low costs structure without compromising on our guests' safety to enable us to offer more low fares and more opportunities for Malaysians to fly. For your information a big part of our guests are first time flyers who had never flown before. We also very concern with other issues raised in your email such as poor announcements and control of boarding. We have taken these matter seriously and have brought it forward to our the head of Ground Services Department, Cabin Crew Department and also Training Department so that they may review how we can improve on these shortfalls. Last but not least, thank you for sharing your feedback as it will certainly assist us in our continous learning process.. With our newly listing on the KLSE, the availability of more resources,support of the people and feedback from guests who care to share their experiances - we can only get better.. With sincere apology, Cynthia for AirAsia Team AIRASIA BERHAD Lot N1, Level 4 Main Terminal Building KL International Airport 64000 SEPANG Selangor Darul Ehsan MalaysiaI won't comment on it for now - since I have had an extremely long day settling the BA timetables and what-not. So I'll leave it for your rumination. Hm. Maybe I'll even come back for a quick note/jotting on this matter. Bonne nuit, folks! ps: For context, please read this.|W|P|110727130002728720|W|P|Now everyone can fly... - Part II|W|Pfirstname.lastname@example.org