I can't understand why some men let their dick do ALL the thinking and some women let their punanis do ALL the thinking as well. WHAT ARE THE BOTH OF YOU THINKING??? Your selfish behaviour (both you AND her) will only end up hurting EVERYONE in the triangle. But you know what? People are going to sympathize more with the guy who's getting cuckolded. Remember dude: what goes around comes around. Beware.

One word for ya: PLAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR! And players break hearts...

I'll brand him as a slut/player as well not just her alone - it takes two to tango. Besides, both parties will benefit and lose out. :p

Yah...I know what you mean but not everyone in society will think of it that way. :p Besides, apart from his housemate inflicting pain on him, he's got to be aware of the possibility of contracting STDs too. *double hohohoho*

If they have been doing it bareback....*SCARY* And yes, yeah...pity sometimes innocent women get dragged into shit that men got themselves into eons ago.

A & E, Chill. E, Cut the guy some slack. Men have been doing it to women all this while, so what if the women do it back to the men? Gender Equality and all that jazz. If he gets some STDs, its a jackpot. At least he got SOMETHING - if not the girl, something of hers. Cheers DV

D.V., Cut the guy some slack. Men have been doing it to women all this while, so what if the women do it back to the men? Gender Equality and all that jazz. If he gets some STDs, its a jackpot. At least he got SOMETHING - if not the girl, something of hers. Cut the guy some slack for what? I'm merely saying that if two people want to get on it behind their partner(s)' backs, then don't stoop so low as to label just one party and pin the blame all on her - "oh she seduced me" "oh she did this and that to me". I didn't say anything about how he shouldn't enjoy it while he's getting it. I didn't say anything about how he has betrayed his housemate. Just reiterating what other people have said ie. "Watch your back lest the housemate finds out. He'll be pretty pissed." He's the victim? *scoffs* Please don't sit on your arse and tell me that he walked into this blindfolded and was raped 1-2 times a day...even hide his rapist in his bedroom and f**ked her while his housemate/her boyfriend was sleeping next day. Whether he's willing to admit it or not, he's playing her too - the old fashioned way. Gender equality? You talk about gender equality in only one context and that's how women have come on far, so far that they start having sex like men and even start acting like men. Frankly, gender equality is more than just those things. We become only truly equal when women EARN the right to call men SLUTS and not studs. When society starts telling its men that sleeping around is slutty behaviour and not something impressive, when the labelling changes. Mind you, society is HARDLY raving about gender equality. You heard A. Women like her get branded as whores, the 'other' woman is seen as a homewrecker, desperate, slutty, etc - so why can't men get branded as sluts/players when they help someone to cheat on their partner? You spout the words "gender equality" easily off your tongue but when I call Wyn a "slut" for abetting and assisting in cheating on his lover's partner, you tell me to cut the guy some slack. BULLSHIT is more like what you're spitting out, DV. If it's sarcasm you meant, you need a better tactic. I just don't get it. But wait, I never did. Understand you, I mean. But we'll just leave it at that - otherwise you'll start accusing me of picking a fight with you, or misunderstanding you, or getting all hiffy-huffy over your words...or worse, stalking you. *shivers* As for Wyn, Since the almighty DV dictates that I cut you some slack, here are my two cents: GO F**K this girl - twice a day, three times a day, as often as you like la - who gives a shit about the consequences? GO F**K with the principles of true friendship. ENJOY it while it still lasts. After all, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? You're a stud, after all, in the eyes of society. Make the most of it. YOU'RE THE MAN! After all, you've got nothing to lose but your integrity! AIYA...who cares about integrity when you have a warm pussy and firm breasts holding you together and keeping you hard. There, I said my two cents - but that's what cheap advice really is. Nothing but cheap, ripe bullshit. Hope you like it.

8/26/2005 03:51:00 AM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|mei: "I was just joking lah".... hehe i expect this to be his answer :D lol yeap he gives a bad name to men like me :P8/26/2005 10:02:00 PM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|That guy is a nutcase!!! Dont lose any sleep over him Mei. LOL Does Tanjong Rambutan still exist????8/26/2005 11:37:00 PM|W|P| Mabel|W|P|Rom: I think so. *BWAAAHAHAHHAAHA*8/29/2005 02:05:00 PM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|i dunno, but sarcasm loses its charm when you admit it was sarcasm. there's something unflattering about bragging about how witty you are.8/29/2005 05:04:00 PM|W|P| Mabel|W|P|Witty? No. Honest? Yes. :) Thanks for the comment. ^_^8/24/2005 09:17:00 PM|W|P|Mabel|W|P|It went something along the lines of the following (not word for word but roughly - you'll get the idea): "I don't care if this is about 'asking her out of concern'. I don't like how you are attempting to ingratiate yourself into my life. I do not want to be your friend, neither do I want to talk to you. I know all your bad points and I don't like you. I don't want to get crass so I'll just be blunt. I don't want to tell you anything about my family, my friends, my life, etc... stop trying to get back into my life. Stay out of my life." Of course there was more but then again, I'm no recorder - and besides, I didn't bother saving the 'chatlog' - it wasn't really a chatlog coz she messaged all that to me while I was away and then, blocked me. Talk about one-sided communication. UPDATE: I got this from a friend (the full text of what she wrote to me):

"oh, and by the way, i would like you to remove me from your friends list. (I didnt say this earlier because I was preoccupied.) I don't like you. I don't want you knowing about my life. I don't like the thought of having you as my friend. You can be friends with my friends all you like, just don't be one of mine. You know me well enough to know that certain grudges, I hold for a long time, if not forever. I will always remember your faults, and I will always end up disliking you in general. I don't care if this is a general friendly 'concerned-about-your-life' thing, I don't want you knowing about me, my life, my family, my friends, my everything. I don't like how you're trying to ingratiate yourself into my life. It's not happening, you will never be a confidante of mine, and as much as I humour you, you will never be a friend. Stop trying to get back into my life. I don't know how much more plain I can get after this. I'll respect you enough to not read your journal, I can't understand why you can't respect me enough to not read mine."

So yeah, I asked someone CLOSE to pass her a message and as like him, he forgot all about it. I made no issue out of it because...well, I felt that things should be left the way it was. So fast forward to a few weeks later. I put up a post to this thread (on an international forum) entitled 'Favourite Stores and Brands':

Here's a list of SOME of the places I go to...usually I aim for the shopping mall that holds the most stores I like to visit but for the sake of this thread... Clothes - most are local brands in M'sia Rest*Relax Seed U2 Elle MNG (aka Mango in Singapore) Espirit Reject Store Colours - the stuff there is so hippish yet lovely... Shoes Vincci Nose Earrings Petaling Street wholesale stores Amcorp Mall's flee market 1-U (which is a shopping mall) Axxezz

That was this morning. I check the thread again this evening and what do I find? A post from HER with something she quoted from my post:

Originally Posted by chatton (that's me) Colours - the stuff there is so hippish yet lovely... Oh man, tell me about it. I bought this lovely hip-scarf thing which jingles. Can't move without making a sound. It's pretty exorbitant too :P

Does it make any sense to you? It certainly doesn't to me, especially after what she wrote. Nil thinks she's useless - doesn't know what she wants. I think she's just showing off to the rest of the board who is adamant that she's this sweet, nubile young thing. Hmmm...since she did write "tell me about it"...I have a few LAST choiced words to tell her. You know what? I don't want to fucking tell you anything - ANYTHING, you read, you stupid four-eyed, mata sepet bitch. And do you know why I'm not telling you anything? Hell, you should - after accusing me of INGRATIATING into your life and all that jazz. It's because YOU asked me not to talk to you. Also I DO NOT need to know what you bought, especially some jingly hip-scarf thing that can't stop making noises when you move - wow, what an attention whore you must be. You seriously are that starved of attention, huh? I don't want to know how much either coz as far as I'm concerned, you're still spending Daddy's money and that doesn't meaning squat to me but one thing: SPOILT.SELFISH.BRAT. Maybe you don't know it but I don't ingratiate myself into anyone's life. I make friends and you not wanting to be a friend? Well, that is of no loss whatsoever to me - actually here I was thinking you NEEDED some more friends since you have always complained that you have few friends or that people don't understand you. Yeah, we all know that the world owes you heaps. Never mind that it doesn't revolve around you alone. But since you asked me to leave you alone, I thought it would be only right of me to honour that request. So honour your goddamn fucking word and leave me the fuck alone as well. You want to quote someone from/in the board? Sure, just don't quote me, or post anything to me OR even write stuff like "tell me about it". By the way, do you know what I can't respect you enough to not read your journal? Simple. Because respect is earned and you haven't done anything to earn an ounce from me. BUT just so you know, I haven't read your journal in ages. So stop flattering yourself. Frankly, I'm sick and tired of entertaining your childish tantrums.|W|P|112489070316899955|W|P|RANT: It is amusing AND amazing.|W|P|meiteoh@gmail.com8/24/2005 11:30:00 PM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|Hey Mei..

Well, take a break alright. Just chill. Don't get worked up over these kinda people. *hugs*

Great to see the list of shops that you visit!

Cheers!8/25/2005 12:37:00 AM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|aiyaaa mabel dont boil ure blood for this la :) chill abit :D *huggies* these places got my size ah?8/25/2005 04:04:00 AM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|like what my mum used to tell me "cast not your pearls before swines"... I think I know who you're talking about...Seriously, just ignore her from now on, and I mean ignore, you've said the last word, so just forget it and move on, she replies anything just delete it straight away...no point reading stupid comments and replies... she's a real hypocrite if u ask me :P8/25/2005 08:23:00 AM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|Whats " mata sepet"? for those who dont remember much Bahasa anymore.
.. and she wonders why she has no friends??8/25/2005 01:06:00 PM|W|P| Cupcake Queen|W|P|Stay away from her!!! She's a Miss Toxic who sucks the life out of you.8/25/2005 01:48:00 PM|W|P| Mabel|W|P|Kyels: Haven't shopped in a while coz I'm on a tight budget... :p

Centerpide: I *have* ignored it and her - actually the entire familly.

Rom: Mata sepet is like small, narrow-slit-like eyes - typical characteristic of a lot of Asians. I don't even want to put up pictures of her just to prove my point. *pukes*

CQ: :LOL: You're so cute! :P8/25/2005 03:25:00 PM|W|P| dr1/6|W|P|you get people like that in life. you know what would make her really cringe? you not being affected by her lil games or nasty words. she seems to be that sorta type. i could be wrong, but play it cool mate ;)

cheers~
sarah
http://www.tabulas.com/~shireen9/06/2005 01:12:00 PM|W|P| gracieq|W|P|oh my...every time you think she's out of the picture, she keeps popping up again to make your life miserable. Frankly, ignoring the whole family is a way to keep your sanity. What's the point of showing your concern when she's gonna turn around and twist the whole concern thing and throw it back at your face?8/22/2005 07:49:00 AM|W|P|Mabel|W|P|...coming to work super early... Or at least, early to me. Here I am at the office during the hour when, at my previous workplace, most people would be at home, preparing to leave or even be on their journey to work. The only person I knew then who would be at the office was Sham or several of my other colleagues from the American Degree Program). Half of the staffroom would start walking in only after 8:15am. Yet here, as I was driving to work, listening to Light & Easy's Caroline and Richard, I begin to really enjoy the idea of the fresh morning air (the haze has made it quite a rarity actually) and the thoughts of the birds chirping as I type away on my PC. No stuffy aircon at the office, no truckloads of exhaust, no busy city noise... Just the crickets, birds and cool silence of the morning at Cyberjaya. When you're are city girl like me, you'll settle for anything that reminds you of the thing that you love best - the quiet cool mornings - like the ones I had regularly when I was still a student in Sydney - when the birds are singing as if their songs were tokens of worship to the new dawn...when the air was fresh and crispy...when all you could do was just drown in it and willingly too. Everyone should go to work early - at least once in their lifetime (but then again, if your office is IN the middle of the city, the experience could very well be completely different. *giggles*|W|P|112466852717536453|W|P|What it is like...|W|P|meiteoh@gmail.com8/22/2005 09:56:00 AM|W|P| sashi|W|P|heheh.. hell yeah - nothing like a stress-free early morning ride to work... ;)8/22/2005 10:55:00 AM|W|P| Mabel|W|P|Sashi: I won't comment on how it was like driving back... ~_~8/22/2005 04:22:00 PM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|Hi... remember mahjongism..
I just want to b ur fren cos we have the same surname.. and wants to know life of a editor like..
Can? =)8/22/2005 04:58:00 PM|W|P| Mabel|W|P|But I'm not an editor... :p8/23/2005 11:47:00 AM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|well... then its up to u la...
just want to make more friends8/23/2005 02:04:00 PM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|Hi The Scarfer,

Going to work early is something really nice I guess although I am not in the working world yet.

Cool silence of the morning.. Yeah. I can imagine that.

Cheers!

P.S - Sorry about the typo. Gentle became "General". Sorry. :)8/23/2005 07:59:00 PM|W|P| Mabel|W|P|Kyels: It's not too bad. Oddly enough, since driving to Cyberjaya a few days ago, my driving disposition has calmed a great deal. I wonder why. :)8/23/2005 09:05:00 PM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.8/23/2005 10:07:00 PM|W|P| Mabel|W|P|I wish these people would stop bloody spamming my blog with their useless links (IMHO, they ARE useless - to me anyway).8/24/2005 10:14:00 AM|W|P| lynnee|W|P|i reached my office at 7.10am today. unusually early even for me.

talking about spam, they bombed my blog too. even after i set it to "no anonymous comments allowed", they go & create a blogger id & carry on spamming...

*grrrrr*8/24/2005 10:50:00 AM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|Aha!

Sounds great. :)

Cheers!8/24/2005 01:28:00 PM|W|P| Mabel|W|P|Lynnee: What's up with these people? Don't they know that what they're doing is both illegal and unethical? ~_~8/18/2005 09:03:00 PM|W|P|Mabel|W|P|It would appear that my new job has me too tired out to blog at night - not to mention the fact too busy (and enchanted) to blog during working hours too. The training sessions have been keeping me away from this blog and ultimately, the Internet. And it will continue to do so until early September. I'm in the midst of learning XML, Epic Editor and Sigmalink in order for me to sub-edit in my job. So far, today's training session went well - I was happy to ace it (with positive feedback given to my team leader - who just informed me that she's counting on me AFTER the training is over) yet apprehensive since I didn't want to see like everyone else sucked at what they were doing. Must be the Asian mentality in me - "do not outshine other people lest they look at you strangely". Anyway, having done all that...I guess I'm tired out yet exhilirated to know that I don't have to bring work back home (for now) - even the emails! New opportunities, new chances, new things to learn - it's very overwhelming. Yet... It is quite bad...simply because whatever I observe and desire to blog about just flitters away into thin air. I'd blame it on the travelling to and fro from work as well as the lack of time I have to spent on the Net. I still have French homework to work on - have yet to start on that one. Can't afford the late nights anymore simply because I have to get up early to prepare breakfast AND lunch (yes, I bring lunch to work) - not to mention do my housechores (laundry mostly), spend whatever little time I have chatting with Nil AND preparing for the next workday. So yeah... apologies upfront for the lack of updates and interesting musings. Oh...did I mention that my new office is freezing cold??? I think I'll bring a windbreaker to work tomorrow. *brrr* Funny how everyone looks like they are in a four season country when they're in the office.|W|P|112437070535302342|W|P|Apologies upfront.|W|P|meiteoh@gmail.com8/19/2005 05:43:00 PM|W|P| fishtail|W|P|Hey, back already ah? Poor Peggy is doing a lot more work now, and so stressed that she's even got her hair cut!8/19/2005 08:13:00 PM|W|P| Mabel|W|P|Really???!????? Aiya, ya.8/20/2005 05:22:00 AM|W|P| WY|W|P|found a job? congrats!8/20/2005 12:24:00 PM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|Hey!

Just dropping by. Have a great weekend alright!

Cheers.8/16/2005 08:14:00 PM|W|P|Mabel|W|P|I got up at 6am and left at around 7am this morning...and arrived at work around 8:45am. This country never ceases to fail me despite my best efforts to think the very best of it. The bus that was supposed to come never came and I had to wait half an hour for another bus - I was lucky though. I didn't have to pay RM10 for a cab to make it on time to work. Otherwise, I should have been in the office about half an hour earlier. I left the office at 5:40pm...and arrived home at 7:15pm. It took me nearly twenty minutes to walk to the place where the bus goes (simply because someone was stupid enough to think that the bus ought to do a loop and not go back to where it dropped you off to pick you back up again). It was late too. ~_~ Sorry but I'm really tired and tomorrow will be another long day. Gack. Oh...I met with an accident in Hanoi but Nil and I are good. Just lacerations and a couple of biggish scabs. More about it another day, 'k? Bleh...I have this horrible stomachache which makes me want to puke. *goes green*|W|P|112419478518174347|W|P|Tired out...|W|P|meiteoh@gmail.com8/18/2005 01:25:00 PM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|Hey there.

I like your blog and hence your musings. Honestly.

Will be linking you up if you don't mind.

Thanks.

Cheers!!!8/18/2005 03:26:00 PM|W|P| Mabel|W|P|Kyels: No problem. :) Although I must apologize for the lack in updates - been too tired out from work of lately. ^_^8/18/2005 03:49:00 PM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|Hi.

Well, it's okay. No worries about it. But will be following closely - your blog.

:)

I was just wondering. Can you explain to me in detail about BA in Mass Communication? And which is better Australian Degree or a UK Degree?

And is it risky if we don't have honours? I wrote about this in my blog because I was trying to get advices from senior bloggers like you for example. :)

Thanks a lot.8/18/2005 08:49:00 PM|W|P| Mabel|W|P|Kyels: An honours degree doesn't really matter unless you plan to do a PhD immediately upon graduating with a BA. Usually general degrees will suffice if you're planning to start working after you finish your studies.

IMHO...currently, the most ideal place is in the US followed by Australia and then the UK. However, it depends highly on which country you intend to work in - Singaporean companies prefer non-Aussie degrees because of plagiarism issues. Otherwise, I'd personally go for the States or Aussie simply because the UK is more well-known for other majors but NOT communications.8/18/2005 09:44:00 PM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|Hi.

Thanks for the advice.

I am thinking of taking up BA in Mass Comm in LKW and then do my third year in Curtin as the degree is awarded by Curtin Uni.

I am just worried about the job prospects later on in life because there are classification of classes such as First Class and so on. Am worried.

Well, I was just wondering is Mass Comm a tough subject? Sorry for asking so many questions but I read your profile and I found out that you're a BA in Mass Comm degree holder, so I guess you're the right person that can clear my doubts.

Thanks for answering my questions. Honestly, I appreciate it a lot.

Regards,
Kyels.8/18/2005 10:20:00 PM|W|P| Mabel|W|P|Classifications don't count in the communications industry simply because of the way things have been - in the comm industry here, practical experience is still more important than your qualification (or at least your grades). There is still a hung-up from people OUTSIDE the comm industry about classes simply because they don't know the full story.

Nevertheless if you want to join an MNC, it is vital that you get good grades for a degree from the US or Australia AND a good class for a UK degree.

MC (Mass Comm) requires A LOT of reading and good, if not excellent, language skills - having a good background in English helps with the reading material and written work - not to mention makes you a better communicator in a global workforce. Another thing that people forget to mention is character - mass comm people have to be outgoing, ambitious, spunky, friendly, creative yet passionate and humble simply because of the nature of our job(s).

Expect a lot of reading material (always read them BEFORE going for lectures, do additional research and be disciplined) and I suggest you start keep in touch with current affairs (AND form an opinion of your own). Mass Comm people who can't think solidly or form a decent argument about world issues or politics shame the industry as a whole.

I don't know about now - but when I did my BA at LKW, I didn't learn much (we weren't taught that much). I became who I am today because of my postgrad studies in Australia (the lecturers there are fantastic - not all but at least, most...).8/18/2005 11:55:00 PM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|Hi.

Thanks for replying so fast.

Well, thanks a lot. I really appreciate all the advices that you gave me and yeah, I think Mass Comm is a good course because I feel that I will love it more than Business Studies although that was my first passion. I went to LKW the other day the campus is cool. Awesome.

What about postgrad studies? What course can a BA in Mass Comm student do for postgrad studies? And do they need excellent academic results?

Cheers!8/19/2005 08:16:00 AM|W|P| Mabel|W|P|Mass Comm students can choose anything they want in the social sciences (apart from the fine arts and performing arts division) PROVIDED that grades are excellent (HD and Ds - Aussie system - it means High Distinction and Distinction) and you're willing to work VERY hard.

Examples: Photography, Film, Journalism, Creative Writing, International Communication, PR, Political Studies, International Politics, MBA in Comm Management, Event Management, Education, etc...the list is endless.

It all depends on the university and the course itself.8/19/2005 12:17:00 PM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|Alright. Well, you are from LKW right.. What is the environment like? Is it stressful?

I am eyeing Curtin and it seems like a good university to me and yes, I know about HD and Ds. It sounds pretty scary, the Australian system and what if one fails to get good grades in their transcripts? Will their future collapse as in they can't get good jobs in companies and so forth?

Thanks alot.8/19/2005 12:55:00 PM|W|P| Mabel|W|P|Collapse would be a very extreme way of describing it...there will be less opportunities available - you'll still get jobs but it may not be with the company of your choice or it may not be with an MNC.

Always strive to be more than what you are and what you can be - that way, you can be sure that there will be PLENTY of opportunities out there for you.

Word: if you put in the effort, it shouldn't be a problem getting HDs and Ds.8/19/2005 03:52:00 PM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|Dear The Scarfer,

Well, thank you a lot for clearing my doubts and I can definitely see where I am heading towards right now.

I will take heed of your advice and to strive to be more than what I can be.

Thanks for giving me a clear vision of what BA in Mass Comm is like as well as an Aussie degree. :)

Sincerely,
Kyels8/19/2005 05:14:00 PM|W|P| Mabel|W|P|No problem - am always happy to help! :)8/19/2005 11:28:00 PM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|Great to hear that.

You saved my day! I linked you in my blog though cause I love ur blog! :)

Cheers!8/04/2005 03:12:00 PM|W|P|Mabel|W|P|

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Well folks, I thought I'd put up a notice of some sort. I'll be away from today onwards till 15th August - going to Hanoi this Saturday and well, I doubt I'll have anything to update before that (in Singapore now). Have a good weekend/week ahead and come visit again after the 15th August for pictures and recap of the holiday. ^_^ BAI BAI!|W|P|112314046322267165|W|P|Away...|W|P|meiteoh@gmail.com8/04/2005 03:30:00 PM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|Enjoy your trip!8/05/2005 05:01:00 AM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|Have a good one mate! :)8/03/2005 03:28:00 PM|W|P|Mabel|W|P|I'm all set for my trip to Hanoi with the boyfriend with a stop-over in Singapore. Everything has been packed in whilst ensuring that I don't go overboard. You know that age old saying about how women pack their entire homes into a suitcase? It's true...for some at least. Nil understands - just as how he tolerates my PMS mood swings (which I get plagued with prior to a period), just as how he is open-minded enough to accept that I come from a very different culture and well, different family. He has his own faults which I lovingly accept to a certain degree. It is not a picture perfect relationship and it should never be in the first place. It is hardly easy to maintain either but at least we are both trying. The one thing I know we have going for us is that we love each other. I can't say that I am not looking forward to the trip - we'll be celebrating our first year anniversary a month ahead of schedule (we met on a very interesting date and share our real anniversary with gazillions of Americans!). We have had a very interesting year laced with affection, quarrels, and the other things that makes a relationship a mystery in itself. I remember how someone once remarked that it is amazing how two very different people could get together and continue to live together until death comes calling, with such a strong emotional bond between them. Till today, it never ceases to amaze me how relationships can just happen out of the blue (unless of course you have been observing them with a keen eye!). Je t'aime, mon cheri! ..................... On the side, a brush with another individual from my past led me to wonder about people and grudges. Why do people continue on holding grudges against others for things that occured three, five, hell, even ten years ago? Does it give them hope? Does it make them feel bigger than life? Does it give them comfort? I'll admit that like any other individual, I have had my fair share of grudges. Read the old entries and you'll see heaps of rants about the ex, schoolmates and etc. These days, I let them all go even though sometimes, on rare ocassions, the memories hurt like an ant bite. Of course, I slip back into the whole "bitch about the other person while ignoring the wrongs that I've done" - who doesn't? Perhaps it is easier for me to let go because I see holding onto grudges as a sign of weakness. Or maybe it's because I find no joy or comfort in bearing a grudge against another individual. I reckon that as you grow older, life gets too short to start begrudging people and letting all those memories make you steam with anger. Negativity begets negativity - from within yourself and from others. Or perhaps it is just me. Whoever you are, wherever you may be, I wish you all the best in your endeavours and I hope you'll be able to find the acceptance, joy, comfort and love that you so long for.|W|P|112305558283592502|W|P|Just before the trip...|W|P|meiteoh@gmail.com8/05/2005 10:38:00 AM|W|P| d4g|W|P|"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." 1 Corinthians 13 4-7

That little passage above sums up about your relationship with nil, I can't express how happy I am for the two of you. All my life, I've been in interacial relationships, and I know how difficult and tough it can get sometimes...yet your bond with nil gives me courage and hope...it makes me realize that it doesn't matter if 2 people are of totally different backgrounds...what matters is that they share the love and they treasure each other deeply as well as have lots of patience, understanding and an open mind for the other person.8/03/2005 12:38:00 AM|W|P|Mabel|W|P|I went out for dinner today with four of my former students - I have been rather difficult to catch and since today was the only free time I had (and it was kinda last minute too), we decided to meet up anyway. I bumped into the rest at college and well...I miss their zany attitude. They had lots to say about the place I left, the people who took over some of the subjects that I was to take and well, my former boss. I gave them some advice as to how to go about things - from an outsider's perspective - and hoped for the best for them. It is not easy; it is hard enough trying to get a decent education in this country and when someone tries to make things even worse for you, well, I think people should stick up for what's right and what's best for them even if it means making a whole lot of meaningful noise. I don't really have much to say - bought five pairs of earrings (I'm running out of space - have a nice little compartment for earrings but that's getting overcrowded), a pair of pedal pushers for RM11.97 and a nice blouse for RM17 from Reject Shop in 1U (I bought some khaki demin pants for RM11.97 from the same place), and spent a better part of the night packing for my trip to Singapore and Hanoi tomorrow. Yup, right after French, I'll be taking the night train down to Singapore, stay there for a few days and then on Saturday during the late morning/early afternoon, Nil and I will be flying to Hanoi where we'll meet up with his friend (from France) and his girlfriend. We'll be back in Singapore on 13th August and I'll be taking the 11am bus from Larkin back to KL the following morning. Work starts for me on the 16th - I'm used to starting work right after a holiday. But yeah...I won't be around for quite some time but look forward to some pictures, 'k? Bonne nuit, folks!|W|P|112300128402133182|W|P|Untitled.|W|P|meiteoh@gmail.com8/03/2005 08:59:00 AM|W|P| thquah|W|P|mei , my family and i are planning to go to Hanoi in Dec.Pls update on your holidays yea.(photos)8/03/2005 10:27:00 AM|W|P| Mabel|W|P|Thquah: Sureeesssss.... :)8/02/2005 09:34:00 AM|W|P|Mabel|W|P|I never was quite an Idol follower - at least after I returned from Australia anyway. I was there throughout Guy Sebastian's journey to become the first Australian Idol (there were two other serious contenders for the title towards the last leg of the race - one of them pulled out due to a vocal/throat problem - I suspect she would have won if she'd carried on) and the show was a great watch. There were remarkable voices and talent displayed on stage and there were hardly any complaints about the entire show. You could say that each singer in the final 12/11 was a favourite and the reasons were good. Last Friday's episode and the follow-up results show reminded me about something; about why I stopped watching Malaysian Idol altogether. I was stumped at first and then I just shrugged it off to one of those crazy Malaysian things. The show, the sound, the voting system...all of it is just...crazy. Half of the time I don't understand what Fauziah is talking about - "tingkatkan lagi style" (what the heck does that mean?) - and Dad bought up a good point. Why do they always have to start with Roslan? Can't they tinker around with the sequence or is the cameraman that lazy (no offense to all cameramen out there)? And the idea of one person having multiple vote opportunities - come on...that's just like going to an election with the regulation that says you can vote more than once. Do you see what will happen? Yup. Disaster. That's what this show is all about. DISASTER. If one person had one vote to themselves, the possibility of us seeing shit like Trish and Atilia going off would be less. Ejay and Ash's fans wouldn't have the opportunity to go trigger-crazy and start sending SMS messages to save their 'idols'. The results would have been more 'fair' - so to speak. A Malaysian Idol is suppose to be versatile and that means being able to sing in a couple of languages flawlessly. A Malaysian Idol is suppose to have character, personality, charisma. A Malaysian Idol is suppose to inspire this reaction from majority of the people - WOW! - and not WTF. I look at the remaining nine people left on board and I go WTF. Ash: Wannabe rock-star who lacks in character and the x-factor. I see nothing great about him. Adam: One language, and believe you me, that will not help him break OUT of Malaysia. Besides, there is something about him that makes it difficult to market - maybe he needs to be a bit more masculine. Azam: Hate the hair. Hate the face. Hate the voice. Maybe he's cute for a Malay but honey, if you can't sing in English, forget about being an Idol. Oh...was he the guy that botched up that English song and made his partner cry like nobody's business on national TV? Faizull (rocker): One language. One style. How the hell are we going to market a Malay rocker in the international market but or less Asia Pacific? Plus, excuse you me but I don't recall seeing any plump rockers out therer...hm. Farah: Pretty but not consistent. First starts off great and then fumbles. Don't think we need an Idol who can't make an effort to be a little bit more consistent. Voice-wise? Nothing spectacular. Xerra (pink hair): Paul was right. If it wasn't for the pink-hair, we would have all forgotten about her. Ejay: She seriously needs to dye her hair back to brown to take her out of the Ah Lian mode. And the English? Ohgawd. The last thing we need is a person who thinks she's singing English when half of the English speak population can't even understand her. No. We have enough of that from our so-called supermodels and beauty pageant winners. Nina: Height does not go hand in hand with talent. Daniel: No voice. No face (I would like to think that I'm looking at a man, not a woman with short short hair). Gives me the shivers when he tries to be all seductive. *shudders* Honestly, I don't see any of them as potential stars. No character. No voice. No versatility. No personality. If this is the line-up leading to the Malaysian Idol, then frankly, it is no wonder that our fair city, KL, are not even listed on the weather line up of CCTV and CNN (much or less our people). We are and will be forgettable - some bits anyway. The only person I saw with personality was Trish and even then, Trish has limitations of her own - I should know, I taught her when she was in KDU. She is a great kid, has lots of talent - her voice is wonderful - but there are only a couple of songs that suit her style, namely hip-hop or even R&B. Someone should do something about the fiasco of a reality show called Malaysian Idol.|W|P|112294846120091367|W|P|Malaysian Idols?|W|P|meiteoh@gmail.com8/02/2005 10:57:00 AM|W|P| LynMay|W|P|I definately agree with you.I do not think it's rather fair that some of the lousy singers happen to have huge number of friends who vote for them despite that they sing like a monotonous alarm clock and some don't even know if they are singing as a man or as a woman.

Perhaps for the exeption of Malaysian idol, they should allow us NOT TO vote for our preferred idols BUT rather VOTE OUT those whom we think do not deserve to be on the show.. so those people like Faizull, Ejay or Daniel who are still in because they KNOW people will have lower possibilities to stay through..

Just my 2 cents worth.8/02/2005 11:05:00 AM|W|P| sashi|W|P|On the one hand, this season's show is proving to be a bit of a dud.

On the other hand, one failed season does not make a failed show.

If anything, Jac's victory last season proves there is hope for the format.

I would say it's more due to the Malaysian attitude rather than the show's weaknesses that is the problem.8/02/2005 12:14:00 PM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|ah. you're still complaining about the possibility to vote multiple times because you're still thinking of Malaysian idol as a fair talent search program. Once you start seeing it as a money-making scam where you and i and all the singers are merely players in the big plan to make the producers rich, you'll start feeling a lot better about the fact that none of these talent shows have a fair and equitable system of voting. why? because it's not trish and atilia's fans who are keeping the show on air. folks like ash and ejay have fans. they're the ones who will sell records and for now, they're the ones with a big enough trigger happy fanbase that will supplement all the ad slots and make sure malaysians have an idol show every weekend. this is the reality of reality shows. the sooner we all wise up to this and shift our paradigms, the sooner we can get over all the "injustice" and not rip our hairs out over a constructed televisual experience.8/02/2005 02:53:00 PM|W|P| Mabel|W|P|Fergus: Producers themselves don't get rich. If they did, most of my friends would be up till their neck in reality shows. But you do have valid points - unfortunately some of us still like to believe that reality shows just don't serve one party and victimize the other. Although I must ask one question: Would one person buy heaps of the same album?8/02/2005 06:06:00 PM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|ya, i kinda know that producers don't make money. i actually meant the people "upstairs" in malaysian idol. the word "producer" just seemed like the most economical one.

and no, kids don't buy multiple copies of the same album, nor do you and i. i'll put it this way, folks like trish and atilia can't even encourage enough voters to spend 50 sen on an sms, how do you think they're gonna cut it as a recording artiste, signed to a label with the onus of shipping 30 ringgit cds? can't do. it's a popularity show and it shows. it ought to.8/02/2005 11:12:00 PM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|Thank you for the article, I'm hoping Mr. Paul Moss read this8/03/2005 12:58:00 AM|W|P| Mabel|W|P|Fergus: I get ya! :) Pity it doesn't often reflect quality.8/04/2005 11:34:00 AM|W|P| gracieq|W|P|Actually, Azam's not the guy who botched up that English song and made his partner cry on national TV. That guy's from my hometown. =D8/09/2005 09:38:00 PM|W|P| Anonymous|W|P|What the fuss about malaysian idol! Thanks God my Tv just got colourless.